a better conversationalist. This is a most important part of what it is
You need to look your best.
Have your grooming up to your best standard, while still living what is
to you, a simple peaceful life.
Take a lesson from Einstein
who felt that from life only that which is necessary according to one's wisdom and needs should be taken.
Your choice of colors and
clothing style should reflect the best of your personality. The energy
of your subconscious expresses as your real self, especially when you are
at your confident best. This is how people should experience you.
This is how
you should always see yourself. Poise, friendliness, how you express yourself
in words together with voice inflection and eye response, is very important.
A simple peaceful lifestyle is appreciated by all. This should reflect
the best in you. In all you do, enrich the lives others live.
If you isolate the main idea in a conversation,
you are well on your way to becoming a better conversationalist. Golf is
one example. You don't golf, yet these people you are with do. The main
idea here is not just golf, even though the mechanics of the game may be
discussed. The main idea is the recreation aspect or what it is that golf
does for the person. This is why they are excited about it. It is the same
with any other recreational opportunity that would provide personal benefit.
You are sure to have something to say about a couple of them.
Develop tact and wisdom with your words. Do not
just short-circuit the conversation and begin talking about basketball.
Be involved first. Ask questions that will keep others involved. An example
of a question to lead in with would be "John, why did you select golf instead
of baseball or hockey as recreation?"
If you recognize the main thrust of a conversation
you will seldom be at a loss for words.
Be careful to keep within the law of balance. Words,
like water, can either quench a thirsty soul or drown one.
In a personal conversation between two or a few
people, you will lose one's interest if you make them listen to your talking
for longer than a minute without them contributing. After three minutes
you have all but entirely lost
them. Their mind has moved to other attentions.
Light conversation is best to engage in when you
are getting to know someone. Change the subject often. Share some light
experiences that you have had. Let them want to know more about you.
Thinking before speaking will keep you out of a
heap of trouble.
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"To stay ahead, you must
have your next idea waiting in the wings." ...Rosabeth Moss Kanter, educator